Duke Nukem Forever should not exist →

I wrote this angry rant over on my blog about Duke Nukem and rape culture.

You said no.

I don’t care if you were wearing a dress, you said no.

I don’t care if you were high, you said no.
I don’t care if you put yourself in a “stupid situation”, you said no.
We need to stop preaching, “don’t get raped”
And start teaching, “don’t rape”
Because I don’t care if you were drunk, if your top was sheer, if your breasts are large, your legs are long, if your shorts were low, or if you originally said yes, you said no.

You said no.

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‘Cause the thing is, you and the guys you hang out with may not really mean anything by it when you talk about crazy bitches and dumb sluts and heh-heh-I’d-hit-that and you just can’t reason with them and you can’t live with ‘em can’t shoot ‘em and she’s obviously only dressed like that because she wants to get laid and if they can’t stand the heat they should get out of the kitchen and if they can’t play by the rules they don’t belong here and if they can’t take a little teasing they should quit and heh heh they’re only good for fucking and cleaning and they’re not fit to be leaders and they’re too emotional to run a business and they just want to get their hands on our money and if they’d just stop overreacting and telling themselves they’re victims they’d realize they actually have all the power in this society and white men aren’t even allowed to do anything anymore and and and…

I get that you don’t really mean that shit. I get that you’re just talking out your ass.

But please listen, and please trust me on this one: you have probably, at some point in your life, engaged in that kind of talk with a man who really, truly hates women–to the extent of having beaten and/or raped at least one. And you probably didn’t know which one he was.

And that guy? Thought you were on his side.

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My brilliant friend Kate Harding: http://kateharding.net/2007/04/14/on-being-a-no-name-blogger-using-her-real-name/ (via sanitywatchers

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Not Alfred, but really good and important!!

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That was a pretty powerful quote…listening all the things guys joke about (because, really! It’s all “just jokes!”) is almost triggering.  But this quote is important, and I think people should read it and pass it around.

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Signal boost

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can someone tattoo this on moffat’s face?

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I love this quote.

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[TRIGGER WARNING: discussion of rape] Douchebaggery that know no bounds

teallikethecolor:

stfusexists:

iatemykittycat:

Is going into a bad neighborhood and holding up a gigantic sign reading, “I hate niggers” asking to be shot and killed by a bunch of black people?

Is having too much to drink in a bar, while you’re wearing the tightest, most revealing outfit, and acting ridiculously flirty all night asking to be raped?

In my mind, there is no such thing as “asking for it,” but there is such thing as being ignorant to the point of deserving it. If a girl goes to the bar with the intention of banging some random dude, and goes out of her way to make that statement, the odds of some random dude banging her are pretty high. The odds of that random dude not being the random dude she had in mind are also pretty high.

She didn’t ask for it directly. But indirectly? People need to understand how damaging their individual actions can be. If it’s cold outside, I’m going to dress for the weather. If I’m at college where a bunch of date rapes occur, I’m going to dress so as not to be date raped. And I think to myself that logically, that makes sense. Logically, if you don’t promote yourself as someone who wants to get wildly thrashed by a jock bar fly, you won’t be. The odds of being raped while wearing a bikini top and hot pants are far greater than the odds of being raped while wearing a conservative top and some jeans. Rape will still happen, but there are steps one can take to protect themselves from it happening.

My odds of being shot and killed by a black person go down dramatically if I don’t show them I want to die. While I still have a chance of being blown apart by a TEC-9 in a bad neighborhood, my chances decrease dramatically if I am aware of my surroundings and who surrounds me. If I don’t invite someone to shoot me, the odds of being shot are no where near as high.

I know, I’m a dickhead for saying this, the customer victim is always right, blah, blah, whatever. Hear what you want to hear, I don’t care anymore. Keep ignoring the reality of the situations and ride that wave of “ev’rything’s gunna be okay” idealism.

But as you do, tell me, exactly where has that gotten you?

Wow. Where to begin on this doozy of racism, classism, and of course sexism? It’s like an all you can eat shit buffet. So I guess bullet points are the best way to go about this.

• Wearing revealing clothes is NOT equal to holding up signs with racial epithets. Do you believe that? Really? Because I think that’s absurd. Wearing whatever you want is a basic right, and my gender shouldn’t exclude me from wearing what makes me feel comfortable. Wearing revealing clothes doesn’t attack any groups or individuals, and certainly doesn’t warrant violent retribution.
• Define “drinking too much” and “wearing too little”. Who are you to draw these lines in the sand? How is rape an acceptable punishment for anything ever, even if drinking “too much” or “dressing like a slut” were punishable offenses? I think the line I want drawn is much clearer: don’t fucking rape anybody, ever, for any reason.
• The only way to “ask for it” is to ask for it. I don’t care if your potential sex partner is gyrating their naked ass in your face, that potential partner still doesn’t owe you jack shit. If your intention at the beginning of the night is to hook up with a stranger, that isn’t some legally binding contract that will land you in small claims court if you turn down a stranger for sex. Knock it off with that bullshit. Expressing a desire to have sex with someone isn’t a contract to have sex with anyone and everyone; neither is dressing in a certain way, or having previous sexual partners.
• Rape can only be stopped by rapists. I know it’s really appealing to come up with a list of standards and behaviors that cause women to “deserve rape” so you can try to put the onus on women for getting raped instead of trying to get men such as yourself to solve the problem, but unfortunately that’s not how the world works. Nuns get raped. Children get raped. Prostitutes get raped, mothers get raped, sisters get raped, elderly women, young women, 1 in 4 women get raped. There’s no force field of clothing or behavior that will protect everyone from getting raped. And once again, rape is not an appropriate reaction to anyone else’s behavior, no matter how inappropriate you think it is. Tell men to stop raping, not women to stop drinking. Drinking isn’t a crime in this country. Rape is. How are women responsible for this again?
• Stop choosing rapists over women. Why is there this desperate need to defend rapists and justify rape? Why would you take the side of a rapist rather than a woman, of any character or behavior, who has just been brutalized and violated? What does that say about your own character?
• Stop perpetuating lies about people of color and the poor. “My odds of being shot and killed by a black person go down dramatically if I don’t show them I want to die.” Really? So you think black people are dogs who will attack you for no reason if you show fear. That’s incredibly racist, and also incredibly wrong; in fact, people of color and homeless people are far more likely to be murder victims than the general population. Cut the bullshit. All of it.

You’ve made your positions clear: women are responsible for rape, not men, black people and poor people are scary, and other people are entitled to a woman’s body if she dares to go out without a chaperone or bodyguard. Now kindly take your positions, and go fuck yourself.  

Jesus wept.

Reblogging for commentary. This is a very clear and simple refutation of rape apologism.

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"I didn’t think of Iraqis as humans."

Steven Green, a former 101st Airborne soldier, in his first interview since the 2006 killings. Steven is serving five life terms for raping and killing a 14-year-old Iraqi girl and killing her parents and sister.

File this under shit war makes you do.

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God. I was thinking of this today. Most Americans don’t think of the rest of the world as humans, or even real.

I don’t know anything more terrifying than realizing this genocidal mentality. 

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I hate to ruin my good day with something as depressing as this, but I think this needs to be spread around. Because it highlights so much of what is wrong with our military.

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The Feminist Hub: On Anger and Feminism →

thefeministhub:

There has been an ongoing discussion here about anger, and how ‘abrasive’ it is okay to be. I have been following it, but unable to reply to the questions (the rest of the contributors here apparently check their email faster than me). So, I’m going to take some time to respond to something anon…

This is a short post I write over at The Feminist Hub, in response to a spat of Tone Arguments from anonymous asks.

Not like I wanna bring more traffic to rapists, but I figured y'all might be interested in knowing that we call them PUA's now →

genderbitch:

That is hella vile. I’ve written about these shitheads before.

I couldn’t even finish this. I read about a third of it, skimmed the next third, then had to stop because I was consciously suppressing the urge to break into a stream of profanity.